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Cacophonous
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posted 09-14-2004 09:15 PM     Profile for Cacophonous   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
My father passed away yesterday. He was 90 years old. Some of you probably remember when I posted about his 90th birthday party, etc.

This is the collage I made for that day.
http://home.comcast.net/~ruggirello/collage.jpg

I'm taking it pretty good considering.

I was at one of our new school projects yesterday afternoon. It was the first day of school and I was making sure there were no computer issues when my cell phone rang showing my dad's home number.

When the voice on the other end was a strange ladies I knew something was wrong. Plus she wanted to know if I was sitting down. I knew he was dead before she said the words.

One of my sisters is in Mexico on vacation which sucks but is probably in route back to Michigan. I heard she will be back tomorrow.

Anyway we are planning a viewing Thursday and Friday with the funeral on Saturday. We will have a party afterwards to honor him which is something he would have wanted plus it's an Sicilian tradtion.

I thought about not posting something this personal here but hell you guys/girls are like family.

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posted 09-14-2004 09:28 PM     Profile for AcidWarp   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
My condolences Cac.

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posted 09-14-2004 11:06 PM     Profile for Cyborg6   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
90th birthday? That rocks! Sounds and looks like your dad lived a full life, good for him.

Hang in there Cac,

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posted 09-14-2004 11:40 PM     Profile for outrider   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
My condolences Cac.
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posted 09-15-2004 12:19 AM     Profile for Flux   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
No jokes here dude. Sorry to hear about your father. 90 years sounds like a long, fulfilling life. I'm glad you're taking it well enough. Nonetheless, it can't be easy.

I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts.

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posted 09-15-2004 12:35 AM     Profile for Acid   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
I remember you being proud of your father's 90th and making him the collage.

Sorry to hear about that bud.


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posted 09-15-2004 12:54 AM     Profile for crash   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
So sorry to hear that Cac. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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posted 09-15-2004 01:02 AM     Profile for mynameisxanthan   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
It's all been said already but hang in there Mike. You guys will be in my thoughts.
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posted 09-15-2004 01:40 AM     Profile for WillyTrombone   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
sorry to hear it, man. I hope it was easy on him.

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posted 09-15-2004 01:58 AM     Profile for Headstone   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
My thoughts to you. I know that it can be tough to lose a parent. Stay strong for your family.

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posted 09-15-2004 06:30 AM     Profile for J0SH   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
Cac - I'm really sorry to hear that. My deepest condolences go out to you and your family.

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posted 09-15-2004 06:58 AM     Profile for Tea Bagger   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
Sorry to hear that, Mike. My condolences to you and your family.
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posted 09-15-2004 09:03 AM     Profile for Cacophonous   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
Thanks for the kind words guys...

I am working again today. It seems keeping busy is my way of dealing with it. Everyone does it their own way.

My younger brother and one sister are taking it real bad. At least they are showing it more.

I am glad he lived a long and healthy life and was self sufficient right to the end.

In fact he and his girlfriend went dancing once or twice a week, etc. He went to more social events on a regular basis than Steph and I.

Steph is taking it pretty hard too. She had gotten quite close to him this last year when he moved to a senior-ish condo only a half-mile from our home. She would walk over (sometimes with me) to visit him or drop off some food.

My father really liked Steph and would tell me almost every time I saw him how lucky I am to have such a great wife.

When all three of us were together those two would whisper things back and forth then laugh out loud, no doubt at my expense.

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posted 09-15-2004 09:06 AM     Profile for Cacophonous   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
My dad had a thing about numbers. He considered number 13 was his lucky number although it was significant to him it was not always lucky.

He was born 12-13-1913
He was released from WW2 on the 13th
His mom died on the 13th

A bunch of other things happened to him on the 13th so he would play the lottery centered on the number 13.

He would play the 4 digit lotto numbers like 1313, 1213, 1913, etc.

Well sure enough he died on the 13th.

That day while driving home I thought that he would want me to play the date he died 0913 or 1213, etc. I felt to crappy that day and decided not to play any numbers even though he would have wanted me to.

Sure enough that day 09-13 came in boxed 3019, which would have paid $1,250.00 per every dollar bet. If it came in the exact order it would have paid $5,000.00 per dollar.

I played a few variations of last night 1313, 1213 & 1913 and the number that came in was close at 1383 but since one digit was off it pays zip.

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posted 09-15-2004 10:24 AM     Profile for JoJo   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
quote:
Originally posted by AcidWarp:
My condolences Cac.

Double that.

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posted 09-15-2004 10:26 AM     Profile for RagingBITCH   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
My condolences
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posted 09-15-2004 11:35 AM     Profile for jondster   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
So sorry to hear about that, Cac. Reminds me of when I lost mine.

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posted 09-15-2004 12:32 PM     Profile for FS   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
take it easy a while Cac, take it in, but just don't let it stop you

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Wow, I can't believe I'm agreeing with FS on this one

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posted 09-15-2004 02:16 PM     Profile for Wintermute   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
I'm sorry to hear this. My condolences to you and your family.

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posted 09-15-2004 02:21 PM     Profile for Jarlaxle   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
My condolences Mike. From the sounds of it (and the looks of that wonderful collage) he was quite the man. Cherish the times and be there for your family.
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posted 09-15-2004 03:04 PM     Profile for RoGuEBiTcH   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
I'm sorry, Cac.
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posted 09-15-2004 03:56 PM     Profile for GFKiller   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
Sorry to hear that Cac. It's great that he lived such a long, fruitful life. A lot of kids can only hope their parents live that long.

I know it's sad to think about, but be thankful you have such fond memories and got to spend so much time with him..

We're here for you dude.


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posted 09-15-2004 04:20 PM     Profile for Cacophonous   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
Thanks again guys.

Your positive thoughts/suggestions/condolences are helpful.

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posted 09-15-2004 04:34 PM     Profile for grumpy   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
i got your back buddy
stand tall

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posted 09-15-2004 10:43 PM     Profile for dAm   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
My condolences cac

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posted 09-16-2004 09:35 AM     Profile for Max   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
I'm sorry for your loss Mike. I'll tip back a snifter in his honour this evening.

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posted 09-16-2004 06:14 PM     Profile for Broch   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
Sorry to hear Cac.

Stay well.


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posted 09-16-2004 06:49 PM     Profile for 20 20   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
Sorry to hear that, Cac. I lost my mom about a year and a half ago, so I have an idea of what you are going through. Sounds like he had a full life, was a good father, and had a good son.
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posted 09-18-2004 08:58 PM     Profile for Cacophonous   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
Grumpy / dAm / Broch

Thanks guys!

Max – Sounds good, thanks.

40 – Sorry to hear about your mom and thanks for the kind words.


We wrapped up the 3 day ordeal today with everyone (immediate family) coming to our house after the funeral and lunch.

Amazingly we had almost 20 people with Steph and I and had enough chairs, etc.

We had so many gift food type baskets to split up. Plus I had bought a bunch of food to allow people to come to our house during the visitation days and get a break and to eat. I had to give a bunch of that away too.

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posted 09-18-2004 11:25 PM     Profile for Oicu812   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
Cacophonous,

I am very sorry about the passing of your father. Others have echoed the very things in this thread that are going through my heart currently, so let me just say this:

My thoughts are with you and Steph. I wish you both all the best.

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Cacophonous
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posted 09-19-2004 05:31 PM     Profile for Cacophonous   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
Thanks O!

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posted 09-19-2004 07:05 PM     Profile for doublefresh   Author's Homepage     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
My condolences,I can't say anything that someone else has not already said.

He beat the average life expectancy age for men by a significant number.

Death is a difficult thing to handle. I had a young relative die in an auto accident (hit and run) 4 months ago and I still break into tears almost every day thinking about what a waste it was. At least your father lived a long life. My relative never even had the chance to see her fourth birthday. Good thing the guy was never caught because I honestly believe I would hunt him down and kill him and spend the next 20 years in prison.

Remember the good times the two of you had and he will live on forever.


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